FRIENDS TO FAMILY

Hello lovies

Today's post is to my good friend Felicia who's like a sister and today is also her birthday so I've decided to dedicate this post to her...

So as you've seen the topic and your probably wondering what I mean when I say from friend to family ?

Let me explain !

So in order for a friend to graduate to a family member you have to experience difficulties together .

Like Felicia and I grew up together and Everytime I got into trouble she would be there with me and vise versa,once our families reached an agreement that they should treat us as their kids and if we did something wrong they are welcome to discipline us ..

It got to the point that she could come  over to my place and head to the kitchen and cook or clean and we even called each other's parents as our own that's how we turned from friends to family ...it's about the close bond that grows over a series of unexpected misfortune and it makes good memories ...

So do you have a friend that qualifies to become a family member ? 🤗🤗🤗

If you do ,remind them that you love them and cherish all your memories...

Have a good day and night 

Love 

Samkr

when is it ever time

Good day Lovies 

Now this is a question that is constantly asked and we all have different ideas and viewpoints but it's never really been adressed .

When is it ever really the right time to start dating after having a child (this is for the single parents )?

As a women you sometimes ask yourself right before entering a relationship is it really the right time to start dating especially after having a child ?

The same applies to me since having my daughter I've been constantly asked when will you start dating again ? If you start dating will you be able to part with your daughter ?yada yada yada

Honestly it's annoying! I love spending time with my baby ,it's fun and never gets boring ,she keeps me entertained and seeing the pure joy and innocence portrayed on her face keeps my heart beating.

Sure sometimes you think about dating but then you have constant questions and obligations and start wondering, what if the guy I start dating doesn't like my child ,or my child doesn't like him ,what if he treats the child badly and now your brain just keeps processing the negatives and you decide okay since my child is still young I still have time so you decide to not date anymore until they are older ...

Truth is there really is no time limit ,you can meet Mr Right anytime ,you can meet him right after giving birth ,a day later , months or even years later.As long as you think your ready to enter a relationship then your ready but always keep in mind the type of role model that you want your child to see or be around .

As much as you love seeing your child happy ,your child loves seeing you happy ,so they will pay attention to those you keep around and the moods and emotions you have when your around certain people they may not understand but children are super sensitive to emotions.

When your happily conversing with someone and keep laughing and having a good time they will have automatically think that person is good and take a liking to them ...so do keep in mind of how your children see your future boyfriend/girlfriend .

I suggest that before throwing yourself into a situation where you have to choose between your lover and child ,find out if they really like each other and how they interact with each other when your not around ...

My point is right before falling in love consider your child feeling ...

Nobodies perfect I guess that's what makes us human ...

Have a great day lovies ❤️❤️❤️

LIFE AS A YOUNG MOM

HELLO
LOVIES

Nobody really prepares you on how to be a parent especially when you're still young, having a child really throws you off course.

Remember that trip you planned to Amsterdam? guess what it's cancelled! not necessary for ever just until you have more time on hand because a baby is on a whole new level.

Owh you miss those late nights ?don't worry you most definitely going to be having them though instead of drinks and late night movies,you get diaper changes and  midnight screams.
Its not as bad as it sounds.

You get to see so many magical moments that so many wish they hadn't missed,like your babies first smile,their first giggle,first step and first word ,sure having a baby is stressful but when you look at that small human who sees their whole world when looking at you,you know you've done something right.

Sure society will judge you and always try to knock you down.You will hear all the criticism you can imagine like ''omg she had a baby at such a young age'' to ''she ruined her future by having a child so young '' some of the comments you hear will not be pleasing  but you will have learn to bear with them ,look on the bright side take all the criticism as the motivational factor to prove them all wrong.

So what that you had your baby at such a young age, does that mean your life is over ? no it does not !it could even be the beginning of something greater than imagined

See me! I'm a single mom of a beautiful baby girl, since the day she was born I've raised her on my own with some help from my family members ,my baby daddy doesn't even care  but that's okay I've never really been good at sharing.
so i spend most of my day working and bonding with my daughter ,i'm not going to lie they're days where i wish i had some help but mostly i'm content with the bond we are developing .

they are really no rules or a manual on how to raise a child everybody has to find their own way, Its going to be a bumpy road sometimes you'd wish to jump off a bridge but then you look at your kids innocent eyes and smile cause they are worth the stress .

Life as a young parent in general is crazy but fun ,its a learning curve and its amazing ...

LOVE YOUR KID
BE HAPPY BECAUSE YOU DESERVE SO MUCH .

LOVE
SAMKE.